Welcome back friends!! Thanks for taking a few moments to check out this post.
I know by now we are all elbows deep in holiday CHAOS so I wanted to take a few minutes to chat about balance…
I remember when I was running the restaurant (or really any of my management positions) I had a very hard time finding the balance.
When we shut down to remodel I was actually pregnant and when she was born I worked with her camping out under the bar. It was pretty cool, and lucky for me I had a very patient very understanding husband.
BUT… after a while my children needed more time and attention and my husband needed more time and attention and I realized that I was completely ignoring myself too.
Don’t bury yourself in work… listen to your family and your friends because they are the ones that can guide you to the best YOU!
Here are a few things to think about:
How much time are you spending at “work”?
If you have a partner (husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend etc.) decide how much time you WANT to spend with them. Make that number your priority!
Think about it this way: Most Entrepreneurs work 5-6 days a week for 10-12 hours a day. IF you send 5-6 hours sleeping and 1-2 hours driving that literally leaves with you with an average of 6 hours to enjoy home life. Factor in cooking, cleaning, a shower and shave and its even LESS.
My point? Know what you are willing to sacrifice and talk it out. Find a way to balance.
Are you taking care of yourself?
When you head home at the end of the day, do you find yourself stressing about washing the dishes and cleaning the floor?
Maybe the laundry is piling up?
Then you find that this makes you irritable and instead of sitting on the floor and enjoying your kids you are yelling…
As you head to bed later you feel guilty and gross. That is one of the signs that YOU need a break. You need to take a half day and get a massage or sign up for a mediation class. Or just go and sit in the park and read that book you’ve been trying to crack open for months.
Taking care of yourself is NUMBER ONE. You are no good for anyone if you are not “good” yourself.
Do you blame it all on lack on money?
“I can’t take a day off because I can’t afford to pay someone to work for me.” – Sound familiar?
Do you really believe this? Let’s say you own a retail store and you pay $12 an hour. So $60 would get you an afternoon off. Right? You CAN afford this. What you can’t afford is to skip “muffins with mom” or taking your wife out for a quick anniversary lunch.
DO NOT lose sight of the dreams in your life in order to fulfill your dreams for your business.
Maybe it’s not money holding you back, Maybe it is TRUST?
I know this business is your “baby” and that certainly means a roller coaster of EMOTIONS, but if you find that you are refusing help because they aren’t YOU, then you are inviting imbalance into your life.
I promise you, there are good people and once you start the process of looking you will find 10 that are NOT a good fit before you find the ONE.
Once you have this person be honest about your expectations and be honest with your customers about who they are. In reality, you are brining in an employee to be an extension of you so that you can regain your SANITY.
Own the chaos and the creativity and all that comes with being a good business owner.
Owning a business is HARD… and sometimes you get so buried in the weight of your business AND family needs, but it is so very important to ask for some help. Make sure that you are checking in with your friends and asking them for advice.
And if it comes down to it, don’t be afraid to HIRE someone to come in and give you some outside perspective. Sometimes it just takes a fresh set of eyes to help get your creative juices going.
If you are local and you want my help, this is something that I do in my Business Analysis and I would love to help!